Image consultant Janna Beatty says two things occur naturally in the aging process: LOSS OF MOISTURE AND LOSS OF COLOR. Graying hair is the result of loss of pigmentation. Once lost, it cannot be reversed. So what’s a gal to do? Many decide to hit the bottle when they start seeing gray, while some decide to go “au naturale.”
Furthermore, a lot of women dye their hair for a while, THEN face a daunting task when they decide to grow our their gray.
Stylist Rosa Jenkins says she meets with several clients each month who tell her they have made the decision to go gray. “Most of the time,” Rosa says, “I can tell if someone is really ready or not. It can be an emotional decision, and many women don’t realize it is a process which takes time and several trips to the salon in between.” She says at least half of the women who tell her they want to grow out their gray never actually get there.
Tips for Growing out Gray:
Curly hair is easiest to grow out discreetly since the curl makes roots appear less noticeable.
Use a root cover up for as long as possible, then have your stylist begin painting highlights (the same color as your gray) into your own hair.
The easiest way to embrace your gray is to simply cut your hair very short and allow the gray to grow out. Of course, this will take the longest time.
If you choose to go gray all at once, you can ask your stylist to prelighten your hair and then apply a silver/gray glaze. But you will still have to visit the salon to have the glaze reapplied, because it is semi-permanent and will eventually wash out.
Rosa says it is a process to prelighten, apply a glaze, then allow the gray to grow out naturally until it blends in.
(Photo courtesy of Rosa Jenkins.)
For Those Who have Glorious Gray Hair:
- Add Color. Whether it be with makeup, jewelry, or clothing. Gray is a neutral, not a color. When you lose color in your hair, skin, and lips, you must replenish the color in order to get that youthful, fresh look.
- Make Sure Your Gray is Shiny. Dry, dull gray hair looks lifeless and that really can age you. But, shiny gray hair looks healthy and lustrous, so make sure you use products that provide shine.
- Use a purple shampoo (as directed) to improve shine and keep gray hair from turning brassy, yellow, or dull.
- Wear a current hairstyle. Your hairstyle makes all the difference when you go gray. Have fun with the cut. Show your personality. Find the best stylist–for your type of hair–that you can afford.
The french have a saying: Votre Choix! (votra schwa). It means YOUR CHOICE. Style is all about making choices. Whatever choice you make, may it always enhance your authentic and QUINTESSENTIAL STYLE!
Special thanks to Janna Beatty and Rosa Jenkins who contributed to this blog. (Photo credits: Instagram & Pinterest)
To gray, or not to gray…Please comment below and tell us about your journey.
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I grayed early in my 20s, like my mother. I colored it for a while then started using lighter and lighter color. There was no ‘gray or white’ color available back then so I cut my hair short and let it grow! Even my hairdresser wont put color on it when I have a weak moment, she says it’s too pretty the way it is! I’m 71 now, and only add temporary colorful color for fun – bue, pink, etc.
Barbara,
I’d listen to your trusted stylist…she sounds like she has insights into you and your hair. And what fun–temporary colors like blue and pink. You GO, GIRL!
Went gray in May. After several toners I’m dubbed an antique blond. Not sure of the double entendres but I love not having to color my hair anymore!
Enjoyed your article about The Woods in the latest Tex Appeal.
I LOVE it! Antique Blond. I would take that as the sincerest form of flattery. Thanks for writing, Jill.
Sharon, I’m a natural black headed woman, and I think it really suited me! I started getting stray grey hairs in high school and by the time I was 25 I had a lot of grey! So I started dying it black! When I turned 40 a friend of mine kept telling me I needed to quit dying my hair and let it just turn grey! I went to a wig shop and tried on various shades of grey and blond, and decided going grey was not going to happen!! haha I always had to get perms because I had thin hair and the crown of my head was especially very thin! So…when I was 67 I put on my hair color, but forgot to put on the setting lotion! When I got out of the shower my roots and a lot of my hair was reddish orange!! Yikes!! My grandkids were here for a 70th birthday party for Carl, and I was horrified about my hair, so I ran to Salado and bought a wig!! A dark brown! I loved it! No more perms, no more coloring my hair, no more having to spend 30 minutes trying to hide my scalp, etc. So, I’m still wearing wigs! Various times I would buy lighter color hair, but always in the shades of brown! Last year I got a reddish brown color and to this day I can’t get use to it!!! I don’t see ME when I look in the mirror! I’m still wearing it, knowing that at 79 I should NOT be wearing dark hair. Oh, and that girl friend, who is about 72, is still dying her black! haha
Hilde,
What a great story! Wigs…wow. That’s an alternative I hadn’t thought about. Thank you for reminding us. You have made your choice and it fits your quintessential style to a T! And you always look classy! Thanks so much for sharing.
I went grey this time last year. I wear my hair very short and had kept it blonde for years. My hairdresser started by letting my hair grow in and mixing it with blonde but I got tired of the expense and decided to just let it go. I get positive comments on my color all of the time.
Victoria,
Thanks for writing to tell us that ‘going gray’ can be an easier process than we imagine, and the results sound totally worth it. I’m beginning to get ‘silver wings’ as my friend, Joann, calls them. I just turned 60, and I really don’t want to look 30. Who comes to a 30-year old for advice and wisdom? We need savvy mentors for our children and grandchildren to let them know there are more important things in life than looks.