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Shopping for Clothes? If you can’t hear it or feel it, Don’t buy it
April 5, 2018
 Here is stylish Jean (in her 90’s,) and her lovely daughter, at Talbot’s. They were shopping for an upcoming cruise. Jean only buys what ‘speaks to her.’

On a recent shopping trip to Talbot’s, I overheard a woman exclaim, “It’s just not speaking to me!” When I glanced up, I realized the woman was referring to a dress.

The dress had nothing to say to her. So she walked away from it.

Clothes shopping can be likened to speed dating. In a short amount of time, you are inundated with a multitude of choices.

If your clothes could talk–what could they say to entice you to buy them?

  • “I’m a great COLOR for you.”
  • “I’m a such a FLATTERING CUT on you.”
  • “I’d be so APPROPRIATE for the event you’re attending.”
  • “I’ll COORDINATE with so many other things in your closet.”
  • “I will FIT PERFECTLY into the LIFESTYLE you are living TODAY.”

 

Pick me! Pick me!

 

 

 

 

I hate to get all Marie Kondo-ish, (You know, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up), who advises us to keep items only if they bring us JOY. But Marie makes a good point.

Maybe we should listen to our gut and allow it to guide our wallets.

 

When you purchase garments that ‘really grab you,’ you may find they also coordinate with other pieces you already own. YOU BEGIN TO CREATE YOUR OWN CAPSULE WARDROBE. It’s really as simple as that.

When clothing speaks to you–and begins a conversation with the other garments in your closet–you can ALL have a perfectly wonderful relationship!

Shopping can be totally overwhelming.
 …with so many, many choices.

Become your own personal shopper. You will make less shopping mistakes if you listen to your instincts and let them guide your purchases.

 

At some point shopping must become so personal, you might just have to hear the garment calling your name…OR not.

 

 

 

How do you decide which garments you will ultimately purchase? Please let us know by commenting below.

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12 Comments


Sherry H.
April 6, 2018 at 6:14 pm
Reply

Having a pear shaped body and long legs, I generally buy what fits when it comes to pants and dresses. It is a little easier with separates to find something. Now that I know which colors look best on me, I am more selective in what I buy and that makes shopping a much better experience. Talbot’s generally seems to have the best selection for my Light Bright colors!



    Sharon White
    April 8, 2018 at 10:15 am
    Reply

    Yes, Sherry. When you find a store that carries both the ‘fit and style’you love, why waste time and frustration shopping at a dozen other stores?

Chicatanyage
April 7, 2018 at 12:54 am
Reply

Good advice.



    Sharon White
    April 8, 2018 at 10:15 am
    Reply

    Thanks, Josephine.
    A great compliment coming from you!

Sally Lewelling
April 7, 2018 at 10:47 am
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Thanks so much for concreting the touch and feel concept of shopping! Trying On is th only real way to. Buy garments of any kind.. it may be totally different on you than on the ja Gary.. my husband has proven this to me many times! He picks items that I pass over and says ‘try it on’…
Voila! Shocks me every time!!
Thanks again!



    Sharon White
    April 8, 2018 at 10:23 am
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    Sally,
    Sounds like Gary knows you (and your style) VERY WELL. That is so great. And yes, online shopping may be convenient, but until you see a garment and try it on, it’s hard to tell how it will work out.

susan
April 8, 2018 at 3:09 pm
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Hi Sharon,

Did you buy anything at Talbots. I’m a gentle light bright like yourself!! I’m always interested in what you purchase because it may be for me and will save me time

THANKS SO Much,
Susan



    Sharon White
    April 9, 2018 at 4:21 pm
    Reply

    Susan,
    I found a great royal blue trench coat that was on sale. I have been wearing it everywhere during the transition from winter to spring. That’s all I purchased…nothing else spoke to me!

Beverly Luedke
April 8, 2018 at 10:00 pm
Reply

When I am shopping, I have to hear the word FUN before I consider buying it. I love your philosophy on buying a garment and I have really become more selective in what I consider buying. Keep up the great blog and advice.
Hugs,
Beverly



    Sharon White
    April 9, 2018 at 4:19 pm
    Reply

    Beverly,
    Loved your comment. Maybe we should ALL have one word that comes to mind when we choose our clothing. Thanks for writing!

Molly Stevens
April 13, 2018 at 11:18 am
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I get easily overwhelmed with too many choices, so I stick with stores like Talbot’s and J. Jill. I narrow it down further by shopping in the petite section. I wasn’t conscious of listening for my clothing choices to ‘speak’ to me, but this is a great concept. And I’m sure if I pay attention the items I end up loving struck up a conversation with me. 😉



    Sharon White
    April 13, 2018 at 5:49 pm
    Reply

    Molly,
    You’ll be so surprised when you bring home items you really love–that fulfill all your criteria. It’s amazing how they work with items you already have in your closet.

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