Last week I had a healthy slice of ‘humble pie,’ after I commented on fellow blogger Pam Lutrell’s website. I made a suggestion, which seemed ‘totally right’ to me, based on everything I know from Quintessential Style.
The problem was, I didn’t take the most important element of style into consideration: Pam’s Personal Preferences.
When Pam asked, “Would You Wear It?”, I said (of the outfit pictured below) that based on my coloring I would not, but that I thought it would look stunning on her. The garment seemed a complementary color and an appropriate print size. It was, in my opinion, something Pam could wear based on her Color Type.
Pam wrote back saying she would probably never wear the bold floral, because she felt it might ‘age’ her. I agree, Pam, no one wants to wear something that is aging.
What’s up with me? Haven’t I read the first page in QUINTESSENTIAL STYLE: Cultivate and Communicate Your Signature Look? I’m the one who transcribed the words that Janna has hammered into my head a hundred times:
“Signature style comes not by mimicking some iconic image, not by fitting into some specific size, not by wearing what is currently en vogue. Personal style is just that–personal. What you have to be is yourself.
It’s not about styling an outfit; it’s about styling who you are.”
I could never have fully known Pam’s preferences, because I am not Pam.
Our personalities, our comfort zones, even past childhood experiences can all have bearing on our personal style.
I have heard a lot of comments from women:
- “I never tuck in my shirt.”
- “I can’t wear yellow.”
- “I don’t wear stripes.”
- “I won’t wear a belt over my blouse.”
- “I prefer not to wear plaid.”
Now, I understand. It may be the perfect color, cut, or pattern, but if it’s not YOU, you’re never going to feel good wearing it.
Pride goeth Before a Fall…even in fashion.
I hope Pam will forgive me for acting like a ‘know it all.’
So let this be a cautionary tale: We might think we know what will look good on someone else, but there are always those individual proclivities that are so intimate, we can only know them if we’re in their skin.
Coincidentally, that very same day, the inspirational calendar I keep by my kitchen sink had this to say:
Thank goodness for that!
Check out Pam Lutrell’s amazing website at Over 50, Feeling 40.
Oh Sharon…you are being way too hard on yourself. This post is so kind but not necessary! What you said was in kindness and I know that. I look for pieces which communicate messages I want to send about me so the messaging is very personal. Some women saw that jacket as youthful especially when worn with denim. I saw it on me as aging. We all see some of these pieces differently and that is why I love Would You Wear It…which I do on Saturdays!! Please continue to join in and your sweet apology means a lot!!